ABOUT US

WHO WE ARE

Founded in 1866, St. Paul Lutheran Church is a place where you will always be welcomed. By serving through relationships and love, St. Paul is a place where everyone can grow spiritually.

WHAT WE DO

Our mission is “To know and serve Christ by reaching out in love to all” and we believe in the importance of involving and experiencing God in all areas of your life. There are countless ways to grow in your involvement and your faith at St. Paul; regardless of where you are in your journey, there is a place for you here.

WHAT TO EXPECT

Members and first time guests alike, we invite you to get connected to the community. Whether you're attending service on a Sunday, dropping in on a small group meeting, or stopping by to chat with Pastor Dan, you can anticipate a positive, encouraging experience.

PASTOR SKILLMAN
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"We love the God we cannot see by loving and serving our neighbor, who we can see."

Forgiveness and Reconciliation 

I want to talk about forgiveness with reconciliation.
I think there’s a lot of confusion in churches surrounding these topics.
I hope to clear some of that up.

Forgiveness is all about your response to someone who’s wronged you.
It’s about letting go of your desire for revenge.
It’s about releasing your anger, and seeking a life of peace.
Forgiveness depends only on you.

Reconciliation depends, to a great extent, on the other person.
Are they willing to acknowledge the wrong they did to you?
Are they willing to promise not to do it again?
Are they willing to do what they can to make amends?
Reconciliation requires that the answer to all three of those questions needs to be, “Yes.”
Sometimes the other person just isn’t willing to do their part.
If that’s the case, then reconciliation isn’t possible, no matter how much you’ve forgiven.

You can forgive someone truly, deeply, from the bottom of your heart, and still recognize that reconciliation has not occurred, and might never occur.
That’s because forgiveness is about what you can control (you), and reconciliation is partially about something that you can’t control (the other person’s response).

So, don’t confuse forgiveness and reconciliation.
The two are not the same.

And don’t let anyone else buffalo you into confusing those things either.
Pastors in the Christian Church, and well-meaning Christians are positively famous for doing this. It’s one of the reasons why, for example, so many Christians tell even severely abused spouses to stay in their marriages. “You have to forgive them. It’s what Jesus would want.”

 

Uh, no.
What Jesus would want is for you to leave that abuser, get to a safe place, and find true healing for your body and mind so that you can eventually get to a place of forgiveness that will set you free, no matter what your ex-spouse goes on to do or not do.

I don’t know the hurts you’ve faced.
I don’t know whether or not reconciliation is possible with the one who wronged you.
But I do know that reconciliation isn’t necessary for you to find healing.
It’s not necessary for you to be a better, stronger, happier person.
And it’s not necessary for you to forgive the one who wronged you.

Reconciliation depends to a great extent on the other person.
Sometimes, sadly, they’re just not willing to do their part.
In that case, you need to do what you have to do to protect yourself from further harm.
That might mean that you just can’t have a relationship with that person anymore.

But forgiveness depends on you, and on you alone.
You can forgive no matter what the other person does.
And when you do, you can find a great measure of peace.

 

Our Staff
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Dale Hukill
Susan Moore
Sherrill Crawford
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Rev. Daniel Skillman - Senior Pastor
danielskillman@stpaulberea.org
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Dale Hukill - Director of Music Ministry
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Richard Shirey - Assistant Organist

 


Susan Moore - Director of Children's Ministry
children@stpaulberea.org
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Sherrill Crawford - Administrative Assistant

officestaff@stpaulberea.org
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Dean Firing - Administrative Assistant

officestaff@stpaulberea.org

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Lynnette Ozanich - Bookkeeper

treasurer@stpaulberea.org

Pastor Dan Skillman Installation
Pastor Dan Skillman Installation
Pastor Skillman Installation Service
Pastor Skillman Installation Service
Pastor Skillman & Bishop Allende
Pastor Skillman & Bishop Allende
Pastor Skillman Blessing the Bread
Pastor Skillman Blessing the Bread
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Hand Bell Processional 2018
Hand Bell Processional 2018
Easter 2018
Easter 2018
Choir With Brass 2018
Choir With Brass 2018
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Church from pking lot
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